Alexandria Ware


“By choice, we have become a family, first in our hearts, and finally in breath and being. Great expectations are good; great experiences are better.”

Richard Fischer

Dear Mother & Father Dearest,

First and foremost, I want y’all to know this letter isn’t even half of the words nor emotions I have towards y’all. I don’t tell you enough how much I love you! Our story has been rocking, emotional, but it’s our story. From the moment I walked in your house almost 12 years ago, you treated me as your own. You’ve taught me so many things along the road of this journey called life. Our family changed my life in ways you’ll never understand. Many times kids who grow up in foster care want to feel loved, accepted and understood. All of that came natural from you guys. Not once did I ever feel out of place or unwelcome. I’ve always known that y’all were my family, and I couldn’t let go.

See, the difference you made in my life isn’t something that stopped when I turned 18. We have formed a bond just like any other family. I call you about some of my issues but not all of them, because I want to be independent from the family. I know that at the end of the day, I can always turn to you. You are my parents, not my “foster” parents, nothing about our relationship was just you fostering me. You took me in when I had no other placements, especially after you were done doing foster care, not because you had to, but because you loved me.

From day one, you have been there to catch me when I fall and wipe the tears away when I lost my Aunt Linda. You taught me that it’s okay to cry, and sometimes being sad isn’t the worst thing in the world. Not only did you love me, but you gave a forever family. Yes, sometimes we get on each other’s nerves, but what family doesn’t. I never knew what it was like to have grandparents until I moved in with you guys. My wonderful grandparents have been there through thick and thin when they don’t understand what struggles or life issues that I face on a day-to-day basis. Y’all have taught and loved me so much that I can’t put in words. Just know there is no way I can repay you for the endless love, support and times we spend as a family.

Over the years, we have had some obstacles, but you have been there for me through everything. I’m honored and blessed to know that you choose me. Recently, everything in my life changed. I received an amazing internship in Washington, D.C. for the summer, but before that, my biological mother died. You’ve been there for me in ways I can’t even understand. You told me many times over the years to reach out and talk to her. I know that I wouldn’t have gotten through that without you. I know that within the last few months, a lot has been shown to me! Losing a parent who I barely knew has let me know how important it is to appreciate the parent figures you do have and make sure you have the best relationship with them. I’m forever grateful for you! I appreciate everything you’ve done for me! You are literally the best and only mom and dad I’ve ever had!

Thank you for supporting all of my hopes, dreams and wishes—especially supporting me when I do dumb stuff! You’ve taken me in like your own and I’ll forever be grateful for that! You deserve the world!

With all my love your daughter,


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